Take care [...] not to label today's events as "problems". Solve them as puzzles that are there to teach and enlighten you. Kindly dismiss your expectations about the terrible things that might result if these things never happen.
Recognise that what you see as a negative outcome may in fact be an incentive to Imagine even more beautiful things. Put your favourite pastime next to your puzzling situation and ask yourself, How is this like that? Toss a thousand random facts into your brain and head outside for a rambling walk, letting your right hemisphere create a Eureka moment.
Not everything you Imagine today will appear in the world of Form, but by Imagining what could go right, you begin bringing fortuitous circumstances, new friends, and good fortune across the bridge from the Everywhen to the physical world.
And these days there are fewer limits than ever on the power of each individual to create an Imagined outcome.
As Arthur C. Clarke said, "The only way of discovering the limits of the possible is to venture a little way past them into the impossible." With the technological magic and unprecedented cross-fertilization of ideas on Earth right now, it takes a limitless Imagination to even picture the impossible.
Picture it anyway.
Finding Your Way in a Wild New World:
Reclaim Your True Nature to Create the Life You Want
I can't begin to tell you how much I love this. Like most of my favourite writing, it feels like it was written just for me. Or, maybe more accurately, that I came across it at exactly the right time.
I can't help but have a gentle chuckle at my own expense these days. My favourite neuroticisms have been in full flight. I see that this is because I am on the cusp of a new chapter of my life, one where are there will doubtless be many joys but also many challenges and most of them -- whilst familiar -- are unknowable at this point. I see that this makes me want to control every event that happens around me, including what others might do or say or think.
I see that this is pointless. I see that I don't really have control over any of this. As RuPaul famously said, "What other people think of me is none of my GD business."
And the truth is, by assuming the worst, the damage is already done. It doesn't matter if that person never does or says that thing that I am most fearing: by anticipating it and obsessing over it, I am already feeling the wound. I am inflicting it on myself. The irony of this is not lost on me.
I want to tattoo Dr Beck's words on my arms, so I can refer to them like an exam cheat.
Why not imagine the best possible scenario? The most glorious outcome ever?
The other night, I was putting my daughter to bed and she offered me the opportunity to kiss her plush puppy. She said the puppy granted wishes. I'd been fuming with frustration all evening because I'd managed to get myself locked out of the email account associated with my domain name. I couldn't, for the life of me, recall the password I'd set up for the account and I despaired of getting any assistance from Google with respect to a reset.
I shrugged. What did I have to lose? I kissed the puppy and asked him very nicely for help in getting my email to work. Half an hour later I got a call from Google Customer Service in Ireland. A very softly spoken and patient chap called John talked me through the resetting of my password, asked me if there was anything else he could help with, then emailed me a ticket number in the event I needed his assistance again.
Maybe I was aiming a bit small with a password reset. (Although anyone who has every tried to get help from a behemoth such as Google will attest that assistance from an actual person that actually resolves the problem is rarer than sighting a unicorn.) But somehow it was evidence enough for me.
This shit works.
Time to try it out. For reals.