It's easy to talk about feelings we have had, but not so easy to be vulnerable enough to be in our feelings, sharing them as we are having them. Talking about our feelings is reporting on life, but being in our feelings is living life.
In order to feel our feelings, we have to stop spinning on our endless merry-go-round of activities, including the gabbing about feelings that can be a substitute for feeling them. We have to pause and wait, and take the time to let the feeling emerge, whether it is from our chest, our throat, our belly or some other part of ourselves.
We have to stop performing and just be.
Because we keep on moving, we're not used to feeling our feelings completely. The first reaction to letting ourselves feel can be to contact profound sadness, fear, anger or deep loneliness and vulnerability. Most of us are afraid of feeling how vulnerable we really are.
We need to know that if we own our buried feelings of anger, fear, grief or shame, these feelings give way to deeper peace and a sense of well being.
We're meant to experience our feelings so we can let them go. We're meant to experience them so that we learn that there is nothing inside of us that we have to fear. We're also meant to experience them so that we can share them genuinely with others instead of hiding from the people we care for.
The Art of Effortless Living